How low self-esteem impacts your life.
When you don’t feel good about yourself, every aspect of your life is affected. From the jobs or careers that you hold yourself from pursuing, to the relationships that you allow into your life, and even how much you give and take from your friends and family (a lot more giving and a lot less taking or asking!). What does low-self esteem look like?
For one, you might be telling yourself that you’re not “good enough,” and as a result, you may stop seeking out romantic relationships or new friendships due to a fear of rejection.
You live in a world of constant self-doubt, you may find it challenging to thrive in areas of your life that may otherwise bring you joy, pleasure or fulfillment.
Self-esteem impacts how you communicate with yourself and with the world around you.
You may be constantly second-guess yourself, even when you know the answer or what you want to say, or you might constantly find yourself in one-sided conversations, unable to allow yourself to take exit and feeling miserably obligated to stay and listen.
Perhaps you don’t feel confident in your current career trajectory, or maybe you experience imposter syndrome and feel as though you do not deserve what you have achieved.
Low self-esteem can even result in anxiety and stress and lead to worrisome thoughts that dominate your thoughts or keep you up at night, resulting in tired days that leave you vulnerable to sickness and feeling irritable.
Unconscious thought may be the culprits of your low self-esteem strong.
Without realizing it, your thoughts and actions may be reinforcing the negative beliefs that you have about yourself. Insecurities about an aspect of your life often become reality through actions brought on by your deepest thoughts. Some of the beliefs you hold about yourself may be unknown to you and may only show up in how you engage with your environment.
We often create what we fear.
Feelings of guilt, shame, doubt, and inadequacy can lead you astray from your dreams and leave you feeling unmotivated or unsuccessful. Deep down, you might know this, but currently feel unable to break through.
In therapy, you may discover how events from your past have affected your confidence and self-esteem, perhaps in surprising ways. Overcoming ingrained thought processes means learning to treat yourself with kindness.
How Therapy Can Help You Build Your Self-Esteem
While there are many ways you increase your self-esteem on your own, having an empathetic and skilled therapist can be helpful in ways that are different than just talking to your friends and family.
A trained therapist can help you identify when your inner critic is rearing its head and help you learn ways of filtering its messages by:
- Learning how to quiet down your inner critic
- Stop comparing yourself to others in ways that are self-demeaning
- Focusing on what is working, rather than on what is not
- Give up the quest to be perfect and focus on progress
- Appreciate the gifts that your body and mind offer you on a daily basis
- Cut back on social media “filtering”
- Increase thoughts that boost your self-confidence and self-esteem, and stop rehashing the past
If you’ve tried in the past to improve your self-esteem on your own but haven’t found success, considering therapy might be just what you need.
We can help you navigate through the often muddy waters of how we see ourselves and guide you to improve your view of yourself and how you interact with the world around you.
You don’t have to feel this way and you can learn to build your self-esteem so you can leave feelings of anxiety and self-doubt behind. Let’s talk about how we can help.